Breakups are typically shattering, especially when you’re on the receiving end. The endless sadness, regrets, guilt, and anger can make you feel powerless, take a toll on your self-esteem and kill your confidence.
Your recovery process may take longer and leave you with no complete control over what you feel. However, positive affirmations can change your thinking and help you recover faster.
How do Positive Affirmations Help You Deal With Breakups?
Positive affirmations are phrases you use to manifest positivity in your life. You can speak them loudly, play them through audio, or stick them at a place you can see and read them as often as possible daily.
Whichever way you use it, these affirmations can help you shut down negative thoughts and direct your brain towards the positive side of life.
Here are some affirmations to help you deal with breakups positively and at every phase of the healing process.
1. Let Yourself Experience the Emotions at the Denial Stage
Denial is the first phase immediately after a breakup. This feeling is expected since it’s your brain’s way of responding to unpleasant news and giving your heart time to adjust and embrace the new situation.
Stay true to your feelings despite the strength of your denial. Let yourself feel the emotions. It’s okay if you want to cry, journal, or talk to people. Whatever it is, stay true to your feelings and grieve. Here are some positive affirmations to help you get over this phase.
- It’s perfectly fine to feel what I’m feeling after a breakup.
- I’ll find peace, love, and joy after this is over.
- I have permission to feel what I’m feeling now.
2. It’s Okay to Feel the Anger and Resentment But Focus on the Lessons
The feelings of anger and strong resentment are the next to deal with after the denial phase. You’re coming to terms with the loss, and you blame your former partner for not putting in enough to make the relationship work. This phase is even more challenging if you feel you’re the reason your connection failed.
Make no rash decisions at this point, lest you regret them later. Instead, you can focus on the lessons you learned from the relationship and how they will help you in your subsequent love encounters. You can also talk about how the relationship changed you to become a better person.
Some positive affirmations to keep speaking to yourself include:
- I’ll focus on my happiness and make it my priority.
- I can love and be loved again.
- I’m attractive and lovable.
- Other people’s opinions of me aren’t my reality.
3. No Relapse!
Many people will try to restore the broken relationship or befriend their partners during the relapse stage. This attempt is often dangerous since a rejection from your former partner will keep the breakup wound fresh for longer.
Instead of reaching out to your ex, find fulfillment in doing something else. Take the extra time to build a life away from your ex and pursue the dream or hobby you’ve constantly been pushing aside. Focus on yourself.
Some affirmations to get over this phase positively include:
- Go to sleep. They aren’t thinking of you.
- My life is complete without anyone in it.
- I’ll use my time to work on and build myself.
- I’ll open my heart to the right person when I’m ready.
4. There’s Enough Love Around You. Focus on it
The depression stage is when you start believing that the relationship is over and nothing will change. It’s often a period of sadness and the point that most people turn to drugs and other unhealthy habits.
Resist these habits, and trust your inner energy to get you over this phase. You can get professional psychological help if you wish. Spend more time with your friends and family to realize how much love surrounds you. Don’t over-rehearse your past relationship, as this will hurt you more.
Instead, remind yourself that:
- I get enough love from my friends and family.
- I’m meant for healthy and amazing encounters.
- My past regrets and hurts don’t matter anymore.
- I choose to be happy and content.
5. Focus on Building Yourself Up Again
After a period of depression, you start getting better and accepting the situation. Instead of focusing on the negative, turn the mistakes into a lesson and carry them forward as a knowledgeable partner in your next relationship. Spend more time caring for yourself and getting better. You’ve collected all the pieces together and are ready to move on.
Here are the affirmations to get you past the phase
- I’m not selfish for loving myself and making my happiness a priority.
- I’m my first responsibility.
- I’m shedding off anything that drains me.
- If it adds no value to me, it’s useless to focus on.
- I can’t wait to experience what the future holds for me.
Breakup grief differs from one person to another. No two relationships are the same. Regardless, we all feel sad, angry, and broken after a breakup.
While embracing your emotions is okay, affirmations are here to make the recovery process easier and quicker.
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